Making Your Husband Poor

The Virtuous Woman: Part Four

As we take another look at Proverb’s virtuous woman, let’s keep in mind that her entire life is summed up in these mere 22 verses. We tend to take them in one lump when actually they recount the stages of her life.

Perhaps by keeping this in mind we can stop feeling so daunted by her, and even learn to like her a little more! Because surely she did not learn to serve so well in a single day, any more than we could. So let’s look at another lesson from her life.

The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.

Proverbs 31:11 WEB

Making our husband poor

Now perhaps you’re wondering what this verse has to do with money, spending, and poverty. Well, the King James version puts it like this, “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.”

Spoil. A good, old-fashioned word meaning he would have to get his money by robbery, theft, fraud, war, raids, plunder, or brigandage. Wow! Now I’m sure (or at least hope) that none of us spend so unwisely that our husband has to cheat or steal!

Yet our unwise spending, in a certain sense, is like robbing him. And according to this verse it can even keep him from trusting us!

Unwise spending

Most of us have probably spent unwisely at some time, buying things we couldn’t afford and maybe didn’t even need!

But I do hope no one has done what I did in our early years of marriage! Buying without first seeking advice and then hiding those furtive purchases to avoid discovery. Or sometimes secretly returning things to get myself out of the fix. Oh, the hidden dangers of credit cards!

Letting our husband down

I think we all want our spouse to trust us. And the way Scripture puts it is so beautiful. The heart of her husband trusts in her!

Back in my days of foolish spending, it never really occured to me how much it must have discouraged him to see our hard-earned cash slip through our fingers needlessly.

But even less did I did really stop to consider how much I let him down. I never wondered, “How can his heart trust in me when I bring about worry and stress?”

Granted, we weren’t Christians at the time and wisdom was far from our hearts. But why was I wanting to create worry over more debt or bills not getting paid?

Applying wisdom

Over the years after coming to know Christ, we learned the wisdom of living more simply. Of being content with having our needs met.

And as a wife, I realized that one of the best things I could do to bring peace to our marriage was to help my husband get ahead. Not in the sense of getting rich – but of having more money than month. With enough leftover for a rainy day or helping others.

Of course it takes both spouses to reach this goal. But wives, we can do our part!

  • Let someone else keep up with the Jones family!
  • Be content with what you have.
  • Learn to value simple things.
  • Realize that life’s greatest treasures are both free and priceless.
  • Reflect and pray before spending.
  • Regard debt as a great enemy.

A simple, contented lifestyle can keep us and our spouse from having to overwork. Creating more time for family, friends, rest, and relaxation. Removing the worry over how to make it to the end of the month!

And make it easier for our husband to trust our heart, actions, and even motivations!

This applies to singles too!

Even if you’re not married, living simply and spending wisely can help you have more money at month’s end. But even better, it’s an important step toward becoming the kind of treasure a godly man looks for. A woman he can depend on, even in practical matters. Showing that here is one who will do her best to never let him down!

Who can find a worthy woman? For her price is far above rubies.

Proverbs 31:1′

If you’re making your household poor or would like to work less, with more time for family and friends – maybe you need to cut expenses!

Images: Coin jar by Josh Appel. | Coins and hand by Cotton Bro.

Published by Signora Sheila

Wife, mom, nonna, and missionary - offering encouragement and inspiration for my fellow missionaries, believers, and seekers of God's peace and joy.

8 thoughts on “Making Your Husband Poor

  1. I especially love “regard debt as the great enemy”. That’s a reality that should be plastered on every credit card application ever given. Debt is such a horrific destroyer of marriages and relationships and even self-acceptance. Thanks for these wise words, my friend.

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    1. Wow Dayle, that would be a good idea!! Maybe if they put out such a warning more people would avoid all the mistakes we made in our early years! I never before thought about debt destroying self-acceptance, though. But I think you’re right. It sure did create a lot of guilt for me! The simple life can bring simplicity to so many areas, many more than we sometimes realize!! Thanks for that insight!!


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