The Virtuous Woman: Part Four
As we take another look at Proverb’s virtuous woman, let’s keep in mind that her entire life is summed up in these mere 22 verses. We tend to take them in one lump when actually they recount the stages of her life.
Perhaps by keeping this in mind we can stop feeling so daunted by her, and even learn to like her a little more! Because surely she did not learn to serve so well in a single day, any more than we could. So let’s look at another lesson from her life.
Making our husband poor
Now perhaps you’re wondering what this verse has to do with money, spending, and poverty. Well, the King James version puts it like this, “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.”
Spoil. A good, old-fashioned word meaning he would have to get his money by robbery, theft, fraud, war, raids, plunder, or brigandage. Wow! Now I’m sure (or at least hope) that none of us spend so unwisely that our husband has to cheat or steal!
Yet our unwise spending, in a certain sense, is like robbing him. And according to this verse it can even keep him from trusting us!
Most of us have probably spent unwisely at some time, buying things we couldn’t afford and maybe didn’t even need!
But I do hope no one has done what I did in our early years of marriage! Buying without first seeking advice and then hiding those furtive purchases to avoid discovery. Or sometimes secretly returning things to get myself out of the fix. Oh, the hidden dangers of credit cards!
Letting our husband down
I think we all want our spouse to trust us. And the way Scripture puts it is so beautiful. The heart of her husband trusts in her!
Back in my days of foolish spending, it never really occured to me how much it must have discouraged him to see our hard-earned cash slip through our fingers needlessly.
But even less did I did really stop to consider how much I let him down. I never wondered, “How can his heart trust in me when I bring about worry and stress?”
Granted, we weren’t Christians at the time and wisdom was far from our hearts. But why was I wanting to create worry over more debt or bills not getting paid?
Over the years after coming to know Christ, we learned the wisdom of living more simply. Of being content with having our needs met.
And as a wife, I realized that one of the best things I could do to bring peace to our marriage was to help my husband get ahead. Not in the sense of getting rich – but of having more money than month. With enough leftover for a rainy day or helping others.
Of course it takes both spouses to reach this goal. But wives, we can do our part!
- Let someone else keep up with the Jones family!
- Be content with what you have.
- Learn to value simple things.
- Realize that life’s greatest treasures are both free and priceless.
- Reflect and pray before spending.
- Regard debt as a great enemy.
A simple, contented lifestyle can keep us and our spouse from having to overwork. Creating more time for family, friends, rest, and relaxation. Removing the worry over how to make it to the end of the month!
And make it easier for our husband to trust our heart, actions, and even motivations!
This applies to singles too!
Even if you’re not married, living simply and spending wisely can help you have more money at month’s end. But even better, it’s an important step toward becoming the kind of treasure a godly man looks for. A woman he can depend on, even in practical matters. Showing that here is one who will do her best to never let him down!
If you’re making your household poor or would like to work less, with more time for family and friends – maybe you need to cut expenses!